Clothes

Supporting the Girls is about bras and bra alternatives. It links to a different piece by me about Foundation Wear.

I tried to suggest to Genevieve that she should take it slow and err on the side of safety with regards to her social situation. She desperately wanted A BRA and if I wasn't FOR HER, I was AGAINST HER.

Lots of cis females LOATHE bras and can't wait to take them off. It's perfectly normal for "a REAL woman" to not WANT to wear a bleepity bleep bra.

This has nothing to do with whether or not you are a real woman or whatever.

Genevieve was constantly aspiring to femme looks she had no hope of achieving. It was a form of internalized hatred and setting herself up for failure. 

See Envisioning your future self for more on that.

Transitioning your look is a postponed adolescent experience. Cis women typically make all their stupid mistakes in their teens and figure out what looks dreadful on them and what works.

If you can arrange remote work, it can help you transition more discreetly and privately and that's a safety boon. 

If you can't, I highly recommend you take things slow. That's not me trying to prevent you from dressing like a woman. That's me trying to prevent you from ending up in the ER or something.

See Being LGBTQ in a Conservative Culture.

Formulary of Life has a number of posts talking about clothes and gender presentation. I suggest you read the entire site.

Lots of people are extremely uncomfortable with the clothes they feel forced to wear. Men say ties are strangulating. Women get bad backs from high heels. I've heard people suggest that the primary appeal of a nudist colony is "God, I would RATHER be NAKED in public than subject myself to the torture that is CLOTHES!"

I see being trans as a medical condition. I want to start my own clothing line to dress well and accommodate MY serious medical condition. I'm COMPLETELY sympathetic to wanting to dress some other way.

I'm just hoping you will take it slow and avoid unnecessary drama and stay safe in the process.